“Misfortunes strike when least expected! My experience in relationships was not as I expected. All I saw at first were happy couples. Only for the coin to flip and all I could paint out were happy singles!”
Living in a society with individuals with a holier than thou attitude is really a hassle. It’s a matter of survival for the fittest. Initially, I thought that virginity was only being sexually pure. At least, that’s what I knew from my upbringing. There’s more to this rather than the literal meaning…
In campus, anyone and everyone is out to create real havoc regardless of the age. Gone are the days that hostels were meant for serious studies. Our youngsters have changed this phenomenon. They’ve changed them to be party havens. Whether weekend or weekdays, there is a party going down somewhere branded as “form.”
Just as the songs go by, they sleep all day and party all night. At times this parties turn chaotic as they exchange fists and blows. When the temperatures are a bit high, such raves escalate to the level of orgies. It’s a care free world! Contracting infections is the least of their worries! Nope! The most feared issue if pregnancy itself. The student would rather get sick than be tasked with parenthood.
Enrolling for that Diploma or Degree course is not easy. Behind all this is a parent, guardian or sponsor hustling to ensure that you are there. Then to my surprise, after a few months they call school to learn that you have never set your foot there! More so, you have taken up Dee jaying downtown or she has eloped with a Sponsor!
The school itself is not that safe either! Lecturers who have been for longtime perceived as role models have evolved. They nowadays trade sex for grades! It has become a man eat man society. Everyone wants to benefit in one way or the other. This rot has spread all over. Its such a shame that only a few individuals are willing to stand out to bring forth change.
‘How will our brothers and sisters really understand the virtue of virginity ‘sound moral conduct’ if they are surrounded by rich criminals and poor drop outs!’
As i had noted earlier, relationships can be really satisfying if you are both ready to work out your differences. What if your other half is two-sided? “Unadhani umeangukia kumbe umeangukiwa.” Such a relationship becomes stressful. Its better to be hungry than to deal with a cheat! -anonymous.
The exit of one jail is the entrance of another! For the lucky few that survive this ordeal in schools, they have to face the merciless world. Majority of them have their innocence reaped away by our perverted society. To get that job, promotion or favor; there’s a price to pay. One way or another, this mentality has to change.
Its clear that the force dragging us behind is bigger than we can imagine. And so is the solution!
To solve such menace in our society, ATTITUDE is everything! If we change our perception on various factors in our modern world, that will be the secret weapon to end all this rot. Let’s not perceive women as sex vessels. They are our sisters and mothers thus they should be loved & protected as they are vulnerable.
Institutions of learning should be treated with dignity. Grasp as much information and skills as you can from there and build your own ‘brand.’ From there, that *ss that you’ve been chasing for 4 years will follow. Not the other way round!
Respect is paramount in whatever you do. Respect that body because there’s no spare for it. As a boss, respect that young lady in your office like your daughter. Not as a vessel for pleasure!
Last but not least, if you’re in any relationship faithfulness should be upheld. #Kemea Ufisi! Never be in a rush to venture in to the wild as serious repercussions awaits you. Take it slow.
In conclusion, Virginity not only stands for chastity but also for good morals. If ethics is to go by, how many people are ethically pure? If you were to stand trial today, would be among those that will be morally virgin? Will you?
…I stand to be counted. What about you?